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Alpha's father died this afternoon. Very sudden and totally unexpected.

A huge loss for his family, who loved him dearly, and for all those who had the good fortune to have known him. He was a remarkable man in so many ways... a formidable intellect, a raconteur who could liven up the dullest of gatherings, a kind heart, a husband of over 40 years, father to five children and grandfather to six... he was a powerful presence who will never be forgotten.

Rest in peace, Paul. You will be greatly missed.

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divrchk said…
You have my deepest sympathies. I can't even imagine. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Manhattan Mama said…
Our hearts and love are with you all.
Kate B. said…
Thank you so much.

You know, the worst thing is seeing the man you love in so much emotional pain. And the annoyance is that all those words of reassurance you want to say come out sounding like the worst kind of cliches. I wish I could take some of Alpha's pain and carry it for him, but I can't.

In some ways it's harder to deal with than when my grandma died last year. Because, if this makes any sense, that was my pain... for me to deal with and work through. All I can do now is watch and try to help Alpha through this but in truth I can't really help much, except by loving him.
Anonymous said…
That's enough - you are his rock.

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